Every adoption has a story, and every adoption story should be told! Our Treatment Foster Care and Adoption team shared their recommendations for books to read when growing your family through adoption. These picks will help your family grow together as your own adoption story flourishes.

For Children and Parents

“Families Change: A Book for Children Experiencing Termination of Parental Rights” by Julie Nelson
“Families change! This book does a good job of explaining how families change, the range of feelings related to those changes, and accomplishes this major feat in simple, straightforward sentences and colorful pictures. Whether it’s a foster, adoptive or blended family, this book is useful for work with youth and their families.” – Theresa Grosse, Youth and Family Treatment Specialist at Lutheran Family Services of Virginia

“The Whole Me” By Ellen K. Baron
“This book is useful for elementary school-age children who have been adopted through foster care. It talks about the sadness children feel when they leave their birth families, and the confusion that can come from moving to different homes. The boy finally feels safe and secure to share his adoption story at the end of the book. It can help normalize the scary, confusing, and sad feelings that many children feel in their adoption story.” – Emily Olsen, Mental Health Clinician at Lutheran Family Services of Virginia

“The Invisible String” by Patrice Karst
“This book is a poetic, yet easily understood, story to help youth feel connected to their (voluntarily or involuntarily) distant loved ones, ‘People who love each other are always connected by a very special string made of love. Even though you can’t see it with your eyes, you can feel it deep in your heart…’ For youth, and even adults, this book is comforting and reassuring. Family bonds of the past and present are honored in work with this resource.” – Theresa Grosse, Youth and Family Treatment Specialist at Lutheran Family Services of Virginia

“52 Ways to Talk About Adoption” (Card Game)
“It is important for children to know and be able to talk about their adoption story. This card game was developed by C.A.S.E. to help families have fun while also talking about and celebrating their family’s adoption story.” – Emily Olson, Mental Health Clinician (Available at www.adoptionsupport.org)

For Parents

“The Connected Child: Bring hope and healing to your adoptive family” by Karyn Purvis, David Cross, Wendy Lyons Sunshine
“Adoptions are a time of growth; whether it is the size of your family or the challenges that come with transition. This book is based in longstanding attachment-based research and clinical experience but is still accessible to all parents. Through encouragement, compassion and straightforward, easy-to-follow parenting advice, this book is a true resource for adoptive families and the range of challenges that come when transitioning youth into the home.” – Theresa Grosse, Youth and Family Treatment Specialist at Lutheran Family Services of Virginia